Funny how all of her kids have a different kind of interaction with Mom. My sister who lives 600 miles away has always had a great rapport with her over the phone. So, lucky for her, that relationship can just keep on keeping on. I am not much of a phone talker so that has never been how Mom and I have communicated. The phone calls we make have always consisted of details that need to be shared. This. This. And This. Ok, I love you, bye. We have always lived within “meeting for lunch” distance. We talk face to face.
Mom now lives an hour and half away. This lunchtime meeting is more challenging so, of course, phone calls need to be made. But after last week’s visit, I’ve been a little reluctant to call Mom. Everyone else seemed to have a good report after being with her, but my encounter was less than “good”. I decided to give her a little more time to adjust…maybe a lot of time.
However, these are the new developments this week:
Adjustment #1: my sister stopped in to see Mom yesterday, but Mom wasn’t in her apartment. After checking at the front desk, Sis discovered that Mom went with a bus group to a local restaurant for lunch. When they got back, Mom went to play bingo with some of the gals. My sister found her in the Rec Room, smiling and having a good time. Wow. Bingo.
Adjustment #2: Mom called me this morning. She needs some more pants. She told me the colors and size to buy. I know that call sounds trivial, but this was a “normal” kind of phone call from Mom. She sounded good. She sounded like Mom. It was a short call: This. This. And This.
But I’ll take it.
‘Ok, Mom, yes…yes… how about you… yes… I’ll get them for you… ok, I love you, bye-bye’.
3 thoughts on “Assisted Living Adjustments. This. This. And This.”
Connie, it sounds like your mom is adjusting just fine. If she wasn’t, she would probably sit in her room alone. But she’s getting out, meeting people, and engaging in activity. You couldn’t ask for a better report. I hope this will begin to ease your mind and heart.
Good to know she is socialising! Hope you find that fact reassuring at least…
These are wonderful things to hold onto. We have to hold on to the little things and they are really big things to those of us looking for the traces of our loved ones still in there some place.